Parenting

Dear Readers,

“ Parenting is a sanctified journey of bearing , rearing  and cultivating a soul  bestowed by the almighty to his guardians “ . A soul which has to be nurtured with unconditional love , faith, abundance , patience , harmony, good education and acceptance.  Often parents are inundated with a very common question about the best parenting methods but I always say, parenting is not based on methodologies moreover it is an art, the way you paint your canvas  the more alluring it turn out to be . But mother and father have a distinct role to play in upbringing of a child .

                   “ Mother ” should  always play a role of  a “guru” who always enlightens others by showing a ray of hope. As an infant grows in the bosom of his mother’s warmth, he  passes various stages of development  which yields his cognitive, social, emotional , physical and spiritual growth. The  formative years  crop multiple questions in the impressionable mind of the young  child and it is the duty of the mother to clear his false line of thinking which in turn purifies his mind . By doing this she imperceptibly  reorganize  the  pattern of thinking for the child  and act as a catalyst .

“Father” brings unique contributions to the job of  parenting  a child that no one else  can replicate. Father  can  cultivate qualities like tolerance , obligation , bravery , friendship , humanity , independence , truthfulness, which lays the foundation of homogeneous adulthood.

To sum up a golden rule for all the parents :

लालयेत् पञ्च वर्षाणि दश वर्षाणि ताडयेत् / प्राप्ते तु षोडशे वर्षे पुत्रं मित्रवदाचरेत् //

Treat  a  child like  a king upto  five years of age because  he  is not self dependent  and lacking in his judgement skills. These exploratory years must be filled with unconditional love and availability of the parent  round the clock  for his child.  The next  ten years  should  be the educational  years of your child where you instilled moral values , appropriate social behavior, and basic life skills  rather than focusing on his academic skills  only because this  is the period when you are turning a child into a  being with his unique identity and  personality by giving him the values of life as an  incalculable gift . And by the fifteenth  year , make him  your best  friend by blooming trust , understanding , effective communication and strong interpersonal relationship  to win the challenges of parenting. This is the crucial stage of growing up  when a child is turning into a teenager  dealing  with all  the changes in his internal and external world . This phase requires  a  uniform monitoring and parents must act as a shell to protect their teenagers from  the negative emotions and toxic thoughts.

Parenting is loving your children unconditionally and helping in their self actualization.

Happy Parenting.

Shilpa Chawla

Counselor